I can confidently say that no human being has been 100% happy with their body 100% of the time. It’s in our nature to pick flaws in ourselves and sometimes others. The media was especially hot on body shaming a few years ago- these days it’s not as common due to campaigns and many people simply getting fed up of reading the constant judgement.
But let’s get back on track here- we are talking about your body, no one else’s. I’ve been there, sometimes I still go there- looking in the mirror poking and prodding bits of me that I just don’t like. But things are changing. Since becoming more aware of my thoughts, as an observer I can ‘see’ these negative thoughts as they pass through my mind, acknowledge that they are indeed negative and somehow hijack them and turn them into golden thoughts of positivity. Sounds super complicated, doesn’t it? In reality, it’s really easy to do this. It’s just a case of becoming aware.
Despite picking out millions of things that are wrong with our bodies – there is one part of your body that’s actually not so bad. This is true for everybody. This is an example of how it works:
- Negative thought enters mind: Oh my god, why is my nose so big –
- WOAH! You remember that your thoughts are not you. You are not a negative person: That was a negative thought, I realise that. But I am not a negative person.
- You hijack the negative thought and turn it golden: But you know what? I am really grateful because my eyes aren’t so bad. In fact, they are so bright today.
Bonus step: You stop looking for the negative and find more positive things to send your energy to: Actually, I’m having a really good hair day today too. And my skin is nice and clear. I’m really not so bad after all!
If you are unable to think of a ton of things you like about yourself, don’t worry. Start small. Pick one thing you like about yourself and every time you think something negative about your body counteract it in your head with ‘but I am thankful I like *this* part of my body’.
I catch my thoughts so much more these days, and I am able to nip them in the bud before they become all-encompassing and downright disruptive to my life. It may sound cliché but self-love is the number one love. That is something I have learned recently, and it’s not an act of narcissism or arrogance. There are only two emotions in the human experience, love and fear, every other emotion is a sub-category. So you can only operate with love in every other aspect of your life if you show just as much love to yourself! This means taking care of your body, mind and soul.
Your life (including your body) will begin changing before your very eyes. It will be golden and glowing – just like you are.
Do you have your own self-love techniques? Tell me all about them!